Why Do We Like Posting Selfies? Human Motivation and Emotional Drive: Lessons from Day 3 of DC TTT, Bali

Why Do We Like Posting Selfies? Human Motivation and Emotional Drive: Lessons from Day 3 of DC TTT, Bali

Hello!

Have you ever thought why people like posting selfies? There is a lot of so-called ‘scientifically proven studies’, you might find in the internet, which say that people who post selfies have inclinations to psychopathy and other different kinds of insanity, narcissism and arrogance. What do YOU think? Can you tell, why you post selfies or why you don’t?

Yesterday our students went through a journey about Human Motivation, what drives them in their lives and what are those emotional gratifications, they are looking for, to feel happy, satisfied and balanced.

It turns out that different people have different sets of Emotional Drivers (usually 3 or 4 main from total 8), which explain their behavior. Emotional Gratification we get when we satisfy our main Emotional Drivers is like a drug. It makes our brain produce dopamine, serotonine, endorphin, etc. – cocktail of positive hormones, which make us feel high.

You ask why I started with Selfies? Because if we look at it from the perspective of Human Motivation Theory in Directive Communication Psychology, Selfie is the goal for getting Emotional Gratification in Significance and Recognition (people get ‘likes’, meaning they are recognized and feel important). It is not that bad, until your sense of Recognition/Significance is the only driver you have (then you are screwed and you screw people around you).

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Our students learned how to ‘READ’ people, using Colored Brain Communication Cards , which help to identify HOW people process information and WHY they do things. It was a ’10 million dollar question’ exercise and people were amazed how accurate Arthur could do that, analyzing their cards. I’ll tell you a secret about one of our students: one of Mr. Azizan Osman’s (No 1 Global Marketing Guru) Emotional Driver is… CONTRIBUTION/RESPONSIBILITY. No wonder why people love him so much!

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Understanding people’s Emotional Drivers help us to increase our Circle of Tolerance, brake barriers in communication, improve relationship and choose right people for our teams, business, relationship. For example, ‘The Drug Dealer-Whale’ approach (another good advice from Arthur) helps you to develop better relationship with people, by satisfying their needs for emotional gratification, making them addicted to positive feelings about you and themselves and aim for more gratification by achieving greater results. And this is not about manipulation, this is all about improving people’s lives, and, of course, making yourself feel better.

Now our students will remember that Need Sucking (not allowing people to have fulfillment of their Emotional Drivers) from others is very dangerous, but subconsciously we do it every day – taking emotional gratification from others making them feel lonely, bored, offended, unhappy.

Atmosphere in the class is getting more emotional and everyone could feel that DAY 3 of DC TTT was actually the day when the huge personal transformation started.

Watch the interview with Elliyin Bt Rasif (owner of Elle Zada), where she is sharing her impression about Arthur and his approach to training. I know, you will like it!

Stay tuned!

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16 thoughts on “Why Do We Like Posting Selfies? Human Motivation and Emotional Drive: Lessons from Day 3 of DC TTT, Bali

  1. there are many valid approaches and a rich diversity of techniques for studying motivational and emotional phenomena, and that the understanding of human motivation and emotion requires consideration of these points of view and methodologies.

  2. We often see motivation as something that stimulates a person to act and behave to achieve the desired goal, while emotion is the feelings that emerge from the motive or drive itself, from the actions caused by the motive and from the achievement or failure of the desired goal.

  3. For me, a noticeable similarity between emotion and motivation is that they are both linked to energy or intensity instead of information or direction, nut anyway, it is still a nice and precise explanation by Arthur Carmazzi.

  4. Many psychologists believe that the link between motivation and emotion emerged from three reasons. First, the arousal of emotion and motives of motivation both activate or energize behavior

  5. Arthur Carmazzi explained it very well that emotion is related to motivation in such a way that human beings tend to execute things that we hope would lead to happiness, satisfaction and any other positive emotion at some degree.

  6. This motivating mechanism can be called many things–a habit, a belief, a desire, an instinct, a need, an interest, a compulsion, or a drive–but no matter what its label, it is this motivation that prompts us to take action.

  7. Every one of us has a deep desire to be loved. It’s what we are all looking for. When we don’t feel loved, we feel empty, hopeless and depressed. God is love. What love is, that is what God is. So if we were made in His image, doesn’t it make sense that we too would have an affinity for love? It is the very thing that defines God. We are able to show love to one another and we deeply desire it.

  8. Like it! When a leader tries and fails to develop a critical skill, coping strategies can help fill the gap. How can you help leaders identify and compensate for non-teachable skills?

  9. Yea, We often see motivation as something that stimulates a person to act and behave to achieve the desired goal, while emotion is the feelings that emerge from the leadership motive or drive itself, from the actions caused by the motive and from the achievement or failure of the desired goal.

  10. The selfie “boom” may be behind us (remember when selfie sticks first hit stores?), but it was never destined to be just a passing trend — these quickie self-portraits have turned into a permanent fixture of our culture.

  11. Emotion is different from “feelings” because feelings subjectively represent emotions, which means that feelings are only private to the person. Arthur Carmazzi is right and explained very well, Also, emotion is distinguished from “mood” based on the period of time that they are present; a mood lasts longer than an emotion.

  12. highly-capable people, who are assigned to a complex task, will need a different leadership approach from people with low ability, who are assigned to an ambiguous task. Thanks for this post Arthur Carmazzi

  13. Yea, he’s right. Arthur Carmazzi.
    We often see motivation as something that stimulates a person to act and behave to achieve a desired goal, while emotion is the feelings that emerge from the motive or drive itself, from the actions caused by the motive and from the achievement or failure of the desired goal.

  14. This is a matter of definition – understanding how the roles are different and how they might overlap. Managers, on the other hand, will focus on setting, measuring and achieving goals by controlling situations to reach or exceed their objectives.


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